After this, the word of the LORD came to Abram in a vision: “Do not be afraid, Abram. I am your shield, your very great reward.”
The other day I had a doctor’s appointment. The doc was asking me all the usual questions: How old are you? Are you married or single? Ect.
One of the questions that I was asked, the question that doctors always seem to ask was, “Are you sexually active?”
“No,” I said.
The doctor was astonished. “How are you not sexually active?” I guess he couldn’t believe a 25 year-old male wasn’t having sex.
“I’m a Christian,” was my reply.
“Oh, sorry,” he said, as if he thought he might have offended me. “How did you come to that?” he asked.
The thing about being a Christian, a.k.a. an ambassador of Christ, is that you’re always on duty. You find evangelizing opportunities at any given moment, even in times when you might not have necessarily expected it, like at a doctor’s checkup. God can use any little question or piece of dialog as a segueway into a chance to share Christ with someone who may not know him. Even if the conversation is brief, and even if that person doesn’t start going to church and accept Christ immediately, you never know when God might be using you to plant a seed.
I think a lot of non-Christians think that Christians, because we don’t have sex unless we’re married, are missing out. But really, being celibate isn’t a restriction. God doesn’t command celibacy to be a kill-joy. After all, God created sex, and commanded us to use it to glorify him. God commands celibacy because it’s what’s best for us. Sex is meant to be a sacred practice between husband and wife. If we were to practice it with just anyone, it would lose it’s sanctity. Sex outside of marriage isn’t glorifying to God, because it’s all about us, the individual. It’s selfish and damaging. How can we possibly expect to someday get married and have it be an amazing, awesome experience if beforehand we treated the importance of marriage as moot? I truly believe that people who wait until marriage have stronger, more intimate, more satisfying relationships with their spouses, and with God.
For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor; no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless.
People might think that I’m missing out on the fun parts of life because I’m a Christian. But I think quite the opposite is true. When you live with Christ, you get to truly experience all the wonders that life has to offer. This isn’t wishful thinking. It’s real. I think some people think Christians have to try and convince themselves that life is better when you don’t partake in sinful pleasures. It’s as if they think, “Look at them Christians. They try so hard to pretend they like being celibate, but secretly, deep down, you know they wish they weren’t.” But that’s just not how it is.
When you accept Christ into your life, your desires are changed. You let go of empty, short-lived satisfactions, and you realize your hearts truest desires. God’s desires become your own, and you experience life in a way that is incomprehensible to those who don’t know God. It’s not that as a Christian you can’t do things like have sex. It’s just that there’s a proper time and place for it. (Marriage.) God withholds no good thing from those who walk with him.
When we have a relationship with God, we are called to share Him with others, so that they may also enjoy the experience of walking with him. We can do that not just by our words, but also by being a good example, by sticking to our values even if we’re part of a demographic that isn’t expected to value things like chastity. In doing so, we may be a stronger witness than we realize.